Making ourselves feel good

"I am not as smart as I think I am."

"Others seem to be knowing what they are doing. I don't think I am as good as they are."

These are some of the lines that one with a lack of confidence would speak. We all have come across such a person in our lives. However, what if we happen to be one of them? Is it necessarily bad?

Whenever we initiate a major change in our lives, we are prone to the Imposter Syndrome. There is nothing more important than providing reassurance to a person who is doubting themselves and their abilities that got them there in the first place.

Sometimes, there are people who judge you and brand you in a certain way that has the potential to make you feel awful. In order to handle this situation, consider the example of an onion. While peeling and cutting an onion, you tear up. But, after cooking the same onion, it does not affect you the same way. The solution is in your hands. Handle the piece of judgement or comment as per your wish.

As long as you know who you are, it does not make a difference what anybody thinks of you

It is an unforgiving world which does not stop for anyone. In such an environment, it does not make sense to beat yourself up when the whole world is doing the same to you. I do not mean to imply that everybody means harm to you, but not everybody feels the same about you.

Be your best friend first

This will help in handling any external stress that you might be experiencing, without being dependent on someone to pick you up. Take time to process your life events and draw out the positives and negatives from them. Finally, try and help somebody who you know is feeling low and under-confident. This small effort on your part might be significant in their lives.

I hope this has been useful in thinking about the mental aspects of life even more seriously. Try and pass on this message to anyone who needs it.