Fostering a negative mindset

The only thing certain in life is death. That only leaves one probability, that everything else in life is uncertain. You think about that sentence for a moment and let it sink in.

We make all these plans, making certain assumptions; assumptions based on knowledge, and we claim with absolute certainty that it’s a perfect plan and then…

A tsunami happens, the economy crashes, you lose a client, you lose money, someone won’t pay you back, there is a loss in the family, your health fails… the probabilities change. The plans come crashing down, or fail or don’t pan out as you had expected. The outcome is different from the one you envisioned. 

Then the onslaught of thoughts begin, how, when, why, where and the ball falls in your court because it was your plan, to begin with. 

Now while it is important to take responsibility for your actions -  the blame game never yields results. Infant its the fastest route to nowhere. What you need to remember is that you didn’t fail, circumstances shifted the goal post; you did not plan to fail. You failed to plan for contingencies.

A wise person plans for all eventualities but that does not a failure make. The negative feeling that enters the mind, takes root and begins to grow like a bamboo; which grows at an incredible pace. Before you know it, the mind is overwhelmed with the negative thoughts which begin to flow in.

They need to be dealt with as they take root. What we call, “nip it in the bud”; address it before it metastasises. Thoughts that are non-productive should not be fostered or cared for, watered or allowed to grow.

Negative thoughts are like weeds in a garden that don’t allow the garden to be beautiful. Weeds must be removed or else you will have a jungle and that is not a pretty sight.

Every time a negative thought comes in - channel it. You are the master of your own mind, not the other way around. Channel that thought into a positive statement. “I can’t do it” turns into “Why can’t I do it”; “This can’t be done” becomes “Let's see how this can be done”.

Control that thought from spiralling you into a defeatist mindset; A negative mindset or a non-constructive one.

For us to become positive individuals, we must think constructively. Being the devil’s advocate means you look at all the probabilities. It does not mean you advocate defeat. You consider all possibilities when you make a plan because you plan TO NOT fail.

Connect with me to learn how you can train your mind to start thinking positive. Being positive and sending positive vibes at monisha@bepositive.life