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People talk

“𝐎𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐚 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐧𝐨 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐞𝐬!”, 𝐚 𝐧𝐞𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐛𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐚𝐢𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐦𝐲 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫𝐬.

They met in the neighborhood, probably coming or going to the market. And I’m sure you know that people talk. Not because they mean harm, but because it’s easier to make small-talk on subjects you know – like other people.

I realized that many people live under the impression that I don’t have struggles, that I don’t go through challenges. That my life is only made out of nice things, feelings or events. But this can’t be any more wrong.

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐚𝐧 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐯𝐢𝐞𝐰. 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐯𝐢𝐞𝐰 𝐦𝐞 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐬𝐢𝐝𝐞. 𝐒𝐨, 𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲, 𝐈 𝐚𝐬𝐤𝐞𝐝 𝐦𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐦 𝐈 𝐝𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧?

Actions and feelings

The first thing that makes me look like a careless person is the fact that I don’t ask for help often. Or not at all. I have a close circle of friends and family that are there for me so, naturally, I won’t go asking for help from everyone I know.

The truth is that I do have problems. I do worry. For me, 2020 ended with losing someone very dear to me, with a funeral.

But when I meet people I smile and I do it with my entire heart. And it’s not a mask – I feel like smiling, like being cheerful and sociable. This is the result of years and years of training myself, of understanding and working with my feelings and actions. I only react in a certain way because I feel like it and this takes daily training, daily coaching – from myself, with myself.

The role of coaching

Coaching can help you too. It can teach you how to put on an authentic smile no matter how you are feeling inside.

𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬. 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦, 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐞𝐩𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐝𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐲.

𝑫𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒐 𝒌𝒏𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒊𝒕 𝒕𝒂𝒌𝒆𝒔? 𝑳𝒆𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒎𝒆 𝒂 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕, 𝒂 𝒍𝒊𝒌𝒆 𝒐𝒓 𝒂 𝒎𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒂𝒈𝒆. 𝑩𝒂𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒃𝒆 𝒄𝒍𝒐𝒔𝒆𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌!