Lifetime Juggler
Ever feel like you are that guy (or gal) who spins the plates on top of that long thin stick? The one who’s job it is to keep spinning the plates so that nothing falls? Yeah, you know what I mean. Now, how many of you feel that each morning, a new set of sticks appear with those plates already in motion waiting for you to step up and keep them spinning? Sound familiar?
Most lives are like a good play, where there are a couple of acts and within each act are multiple scenes. Unlike a play, our lives do not move single-threaded in a sequential manner. In other words, most people do not live their lives as a single act, one scene life. I recently read someone’s opinion that hiding behind “I am busy” as an excuse really means that we really determine what gets our focus based on how we prioritize (aka, perceive) the tasks before us. This makes sense as to why high-performance, successful people only focus on a small, finite set of things at a time. Darren Hardy has told the story where Richard Branson turned down a speaking engagement for some huge, ridiculous amount of money because it was not within the two or three things he was focused on at the moment.
I try hard to have a similar discipline, but the truth is that while it sounds simple, it is not easy. I have my family, my work with a new company and the presidency of my synagogue. I have to juggle those three, while having some time left over to socialize (part of my down time). Within each of those “acts”, I have a few “scenes” that need focus. Like the plates spinning on top of the sticks, I need to plan the timing of when each item needs to be addressed. Yes, I often get ask, “What about taking on [fill in the blank].” Often, I have to answer “No,” because I do not want to take on anything that I will not be able to focus on. Also, once you say “yes,” you have made a commitment to follow through. It is better to say no, then address later (no sometimes means not now), then to fail on a commitment by not taking the time required to follow through.
One of the things that has helped me is that each of the three acts knows about the other two and the times that I allocate for each. Work hours are straight forward (for the most part). Synagogue is set aside for nights (for the most part). Family time includes dinner (most nights) and time on the weekend when everyone is around. Although things pop up out of their time slots, I make sure that everyone knows that my family comes first.
