Daniel Tocchini

It's Not About You. It's Not About Me. It's About US...A User's Guide This is a transformational approach to breaking through the barriers and getting out of the ruts in our marriage by paying attention to our conversation, what we are thinking, our motivation for thinking it, and the impact it has on our spouse.

It is certain that people get stuck in ruts, succumb to indifference, isolation, bitterness, and resentment, but by exploring the differences between listening for God and listening for survival, the author illustrates how we avoid taking responsibility for what God has called us to be. Even the worst tragedies are meant to deepen men and women’s relationships with one another and with God. In ten succinct chapters that read as distinct stories with titles like “Down in the Fox Hole,” “God’s… Show more

It is certain that people get stuck in ruts, succumb to indifference, isolation, bitterness, and resentment, but by exploring the differences between listening for God and listening for survival, the author illustrates how we avoid taking responsibility for what God has called us to be. Even the worst tragedies are meant to deepen men and women’s relationships with one another and with God. In ten succinct chapters that read as distinct stories with titles like “Down in the Fox Hole,” “God’s Skin,” and “Paradise Road,” Tocchini unveils the possibilities of a character-driven life in which human beings willing risk and expose themselves to annihilation and thereby experience the indestructible arise within them. He personally knows a hard path and has ministered to fellow travelers on the same path. The point is to transcend our immediate circumstances as well as actively identify patterns where we try to provide for ourselves what only God can provide. This highly spiritual guide engages readers in powerful distinctions that compel them to intentionally become the kinds of people they most want others to be for them. We are all in this together; it is up to each individual to choose to be transformed. Here is the invitation to act on the possibility of the future to which God is calling you. Show less

Inside of each of us lives a victim. The victim complains, threatens, moans, and - most of all - shifts the blame by pointing the finger at others, circumstances, and even God.... This book challenges you to look at the impact that living as a victim has on all the relationships in your life. The impact is unequivocally negative.. On the other hand, killing the victim in its many guises rekindles a life worth living. Responsibility, repentance, and vision are central to moving from being a… Show more

Inside of each of us lives a victim. The victim complains, threatens, moans, and - most of all - shifts the blame by pointing the finger at others, circumstances, and even God.... This book challenges you to look at the impact that living as a victim has on all the relationships in your life. The impact is unequivocally negative.. On the other hand, killing the victim in its many guises rekindles a life worth living. Responsibility, repentance, and vision are central to moving from being a victim to being a victor. In this book we will examine what these three concepts mean...to love another as Christ loves us and turn from being a victim to being a victor. Show less